The mind itself is a potent instrument for change, the only one there is.
All change must take place in the mind first,
for all action is a result of thought and the resultant impulse or motivation.
Remember within every situation, you are either defensively reacting to it or patiently learning from it!
The essential learning is through your inner intention.
Every moment that is truly given to gratitude, kindness, honesty, and humility will become the blessings that you count on through every situation.
Do not worry about what to say or do, because the Grace of God will guide you in every moment.